Puedes saber exactamente por qué haces lo que haces y aun así seguir haciéndolo. Puedes saber que te alejas cuando te sientes rechazada. Puedes entender que tu necesidad de control viene del miedo. Puedes reconocer que sigues eligiendo parejas emocionalmente indisponibles. Incluso puedes explicar, con todo detalle, de dónde vienen esos patrones. Y aun así… nada cambia.

You can know exactly why you do what you do and still keep doing it. You can know that you become distant when you feel rejected. You can understand that your need for control comes from fear. You can recognize that you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners. You can even explain, in great detail, where these patterns came from. And yet… nothing changes. This is one of the most frustrating parts of personal growth. We often assume that once we understand ourselves, ch

Have you ever caught yourself saying: "Why does this keep happening to me?" Maybe the faces are different. The jobs are different. The cities are different. But somehow, months into the relationship, you find yourself feeling the same emotions: anxiety, confusion, loneliness, or the exhausting pressure to keep the relationship together. It can feel like bad luck. But in most cases, it isn't.

Llevo años sentada frente a personas que llegan a consulta con la misma frase disfrazada de mil formas distintas: "siento que algo está mal conmigo." Y casi siempre, cuando empezamos a desenredar esa frase, no encontramos algo roto. Encontramos una lista. Una lista larguísima de cosas que "deberían" sentir, querer, disfrutar, desear, tolerar, aguantar, evitar. Deberías querer sexo tres veces por semana. Deberías estar cómoda con tu cuerpo. Deberías haber superado ya eso que t

I've spent years sitting across from people who arrive at a session with the same sentence, dressed up a thousand different ways: "something feels wrong with me."